School Advice Tells 14-Year-Old Boys How To Choke Their Girlfriends

A council-funded sex education PowerPoint shown to teenagers referenced asking for consent before choking a partner.

Students enrolled in PSHE classes at several secondary schools were presented with the resources, which were provided by the Bridgend County Borough Council in South Wales.

Delivered by the council’s domestic abuse service, Assia, the PowerPoint, which was seen by The Times, instructed youngsters that ‘consent (when it comes to choking during sex) should occur every time sexual choking is an option’.

‘It is never OK to start choking someone without asking them first and giving them space to say no,’ it continued. 

Experts, however, have conveyed their profound concern at the sex education class which they say is illustrating the notion that ‘choking can be done safely’.

‘This is not sex education, this is just advocacy for the porn industry,’ Michael Conroy, the founder of Men at Work, told The Times.

‘Imagine you are a 14-year-old girl and you have told your boyfriend you don’t want to be choked but then an authority figure comes into school and tells you it is OK.

‘Choking cuts off oxygen to the brain and is incredibly harmful, it can even kill. Most schools will take it on trust that something endorsed by the local authority is OK.  There is a rampant myth that choking can be done safely and is simply another option for a sexual act.’

Teenage guys’ demands for forceful sex, including choking, have, increased alarmingly in recent years.

A recent survey by Dr Debby Herbenick, known to be one of the foremost researchers on American sexual behaviour, questioned 5,000 women anonymously at a ‘major Midwestern university,’ the New York Times reported.

Almost two-thirds of women who responded said they had been choked by a partner during sex – but an even more worryingly statistic emerged: 40 percent were between the ages 12 and 17 the first time choking happened.

During a prior survey, the figure was far lower at 25 percent (or one in four).

Peggy Orenstein, a sexuality researcher and college professor, remembered having two students, 15 and 16, ask her about choking during sex.

One 15-year-old boy worryingly said: ‘Why do girls all want to be choked?’

Choking during sex has increased, and some have attributed this to popular culture.

Choking has been shown in a range of television shows, including the pilot of HBO’s Euphoria – where a high school was choked.

And a hit single last year by American rapper Jack Harlow titled ‘Lovin On Me’ begins with the vocals: ‘I’m vanilla baby, I’ll choke you, but I ain’t no killer, baby.’

Bridgend County Borough Council vehemently repudiated that they had financed education which ‘taught children to consent to damaging sexual behaviour’.

A council spokesman said: ‘The suggestion that children are being taught to consent to damaging sexual behaviour is simply not true. 

‘All pastoral advice used by local schools is carefully designed to be age-appropriate and to encourage teenagers who are maturing into young adults to develop healthy, respectful relationships where there is no abuse of any kind.

‘Bridgend County Borough Council takes its safeguarding responsibilities very seriously, and anyone who approaches the Assia domestic abuse service regarding this issue will be informed that non-fatal strangulation remains an illegal, dangerous criminal act.’

In a reply on X to a now-deleted post about the sex education class, Bridgend County Borough Council wrote: ‘Your post regarding Bridgend County Borough Council’s Assia Domestic Abuse Service is factually incorrect and causing widespread misinformation.’

How in the world did this happen? This is simply physical brutality, and BDSM is not about love, it is about power and domination.

However, what grown-ups do in the confines of their homes is completely up to them, but this is not something that should be taught at school.

It’s inappropriate and not something that should ever be discussed with a youngster.

What should be taught is safe sex, contraceptives and consent, these are the things that are essential for 14-year-olds to learn during sex education, and they need to be taught accurately without room for interpretation.

However, it appears that our children are being groomed by deviants and perverts who have penetrated every aspect of our establishment, but now they’re doing it openly and we have to eliminate this.

Our schools and councils that encourage this, particularly for minors, are profoundly flawed.

Choking is dangerous in whatever way it’s performed, and these schools are putting thoughts into our children’s heads. They are essentially saying that it’s okay as long as there is consent, but who will be accountable if something goes wrong?

Women are now being abused, murdered, raped and treated like sex toys. Young girls are being raised to expect no respect, and that they’re worth nothing more than an outlet for assertive sex – this has to stop, and we should be teaching our teenagers self-respect, and these schools that are enabling this utter nonsense should be closed down.